Pseudo Spirituality / Spiritual Bypassing

A topic that I am very excited to write about because - 1: I have experienced pseudo spirituality/spiritual bypassing and 2: I think it is a much-needed topic to talk about and shed more light on.

So, before we get into it, let's discuss what pseudo spirituality/spiritual bypassing is... Essentially both point to the idea of someone hiding behind the face of spirituality and avoiding their trauma and emotions (suppressing them), living from the perspective of being spiritual - yet not actually embodying the truth of it. Someone doing this will feel more highly of themselves and look down upon people who aren't spiritual as they will feel that their perspective of life is 'correct' and 'right' (the beautiful ego coming out). Usually from the outside looking in, it can be obvious when people are doing this as these people give off a feeling of judgement - a reflection of what's happening within them. However, from the inside looking out - these people have a tough time seeing beyond this facade/mask.

At the start of this, I mentioned that I have experienced this first hand - but on a very minor scale. While starting my healing journey I was first established by forming a connection with my angels and guides. They connected with me first through numbers and feathers. It was such a magical time where I felt so deeply connected in love and trust. After being awakened wide open to the world of spirituality, I started to purchase crystals, tarot cards and oracle cards as I loved connecting to a source outside of myself for guidance and support. It was such a fun time! However, there was one issue that I kept avoiding and facing and I remember this clear as day! I would have so much fear whenever I would pull a card that didn't have a positive meaning towards it. I hated this idea of feeling any other emotion, other than the 'good one's', I thought that it was wrong or not healthy to do so. This went on for a long time. I started to tap into the side of spirituality that was all love and light, avoiding the trauma of my life, avoiding the emotions and feeling's I had suppressed my whole life. I thought I felt happy - but it was all a mask.

Through this suppression and avoidance, I started to deal with health conditions, anxiety, depression - it was such a confusing time as I thought that now I was spiritual that no harm could come to me - that I was doing the right thing. That is what my ego was saying to me. This is when my heart and mind began to blow right open, and I started to tap more into the truth of spirituality. Spirituality to me now is, knowing that life will always have its up's and down's, trusting in how life unfolds, connecting to my angels in times on need and having the inner knowing the everything in my life is happening for me - whether I like it or not! Since releasing this mask many years ago - I finally have come back home to myself, I no longer hustle in my business, I deeply feel and express all emotions, I am healthy, content and at peace with my life, I spend a lot less time doing 'spiritual things' and doing what I actually want to do - lastly I feel a lot of grounded in my inner power and truth!

So, let's talk about how this could be showing up in your life and how to reconnect with your inner truth/power again:

Avoidance of Emotions: You label emotions to be 'good' and 'bad', having the belief that expressing and feeling your 'good' emotions makes you a good person. This is far from the truth! Doing this suppresses apart of yourself - this holds so much judgement and shame upon yourself. It makes it hard to love and accept every part of you and only traps all of your emotions within - which can later cause disharmony within the physical body.

Thinking your view of life is right: When someone holds so much judgement within, it is going to be expressed externally as well. Someone that holds the superior thought that being spiritual is the correct way to live, will think/speak down to others and often shame them for not having this perspective of life. This is just your beautiful ego coming out to assert its power to feel loved, accepted and in control of your environment. What is really happening within, is that apart of you lacks and craves for the love, acceptance and belonging within from yourself - so then it looks externally for it.

Doing every spiritual practice: Something I have been guilty of, is doing every spiritual practice under the sun - to be better, feel better etc. I'm talking breathwork, reiki, yoga, EFT, meditating, chanting, rituals etc. While all of these are amazing tools, what happens is when someone is experiencing pseudo spirituality/spiritual bypassing they will overkill the use of these practices as a form of avoidance (not actually surrendering into the process, instead just ticking it off the list saying that you've done it). Someone that does these practices daily, however, are not seeing the results they want - is a big sign of the avoidance they are experiencing.

Looking externally for the answer: Another one I have been guilty of too! When someone avoids and suppresses apart of themselves - of course they won't trust their inner power and intuition. They will seek out someone they have put on a pedestal to receive their advice. This takes away your inner power and disconnects you from your heart and intuition.

Overuse of healing and self-development: And another I have been guilty of doing!! But this is a huge one, you will often find yourself looking for new ways to heal yourself, read every self-development book under the sun, see multiple coaches a year and yet still see no change. Often someone doing this is just trying to better themselves, which seems like a great idea - however it is so damaging when it becomes an obsession. Constantly seeking out perfection or ways to better yourself just adds to the shame and judgement upon yourself. It tells your subconscious that 'you're not good enough', 'you need to do better/be better to feel better' or that 'something's wrong with me'. Which these are all far from the truth and are just little beliefs that have been picked up from trauma/ the inner child.

These are all just a few, but the main points I wanted to share with you today! If you resonated with these, or even just a few - instead of shaming yourself for doing these - simply just acknowledge and accept that you have just been unconscious to these. Now that you have the awareness, you can start to peel back the layers and make positive steps into your future. This is not something to be ashamed of doing, it just shows how much you are ready for change, for wanting to feel loved and accepted within, to feel at peace and having that inner strength you're searching for.

To assist you in your journey start by:

1. Acknowledging and feeling all of your emotions

2. Become an observer to your thoughts and emotions

3. Take a break from self-development and healing - and just be!

4. Do things that actually bring you joy

5. Question your behaviours that reinforce beliefs that don't serve you

If you need additional support to rediscover your inner strength, tune into your intuition, embrace your emotions, and heal from past trauma, reach out to me through my mentoring program. I integrate psychic healing with mental and emotional embodiment to guide you back to your true self. Spiritual bypassing is not part of the process! hahah

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